Below are some principles of child-rearing that can offer a genuinely helpful guide to not only parents, but also teachers, disciplinarians, day care workers, and others who care for children:
1. Love Abundantly:
- Be constant and as unconditional as possible when giving your love to your child.
- Be open in expressing it physically, and praise your child when other people are present as well as privately.
- Be open in giving security, a sense of belonging, and support.
2. Discipline Constructively (set and adhere to standards of behavior):
- Give clear directions.
- Provide structure.
- Set limits.
- Use a positive approach – more “do’s” than “don’ts.”
- Punish when you say you will.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Make rewards and punishments swiftly following the deed.
- Be consistent, clear, private, reasonable, and flexible.
- Be understanding.
- Be authoritative – not hesitant, indecisive, or rigid.
3. Spend Time Together:
- Encouraging family activities.
4. Tend to Personal and Marital Needs:
- Self nurture
5. Teach Right from Wrong:
- Basic values.
- Religious codes or ethical practices.
6. Develop Mutual Respect for All Members of Your Family.
- Listen carefully to your child.
- Train your child to listen to you.
- Talk in language that your child understands.
- Identify appropriate expressions of anger and frustration.
8. Offer Guidance:
- Use non-preaching/direct sentences which identify your own values.
- Help them resolve their problems.
9. Foster Independence:
- Balance freedom with control.
- Help children to make decisions.
- Support independence.
10. Be Realistic:
- In setting your expectations.
- By recognizing cut side influences (peers, teachers, TV, etc.)
*Excerpted from Plain Talk About Raising Children, U.S. Department of Health, Education and Welfare!
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