Ten Basic Principles of Raising Children


Below are some principles of child-rearing that can offer a genuinely helpful guide to not only parents, but also teachers, disciplinarians, day care workers, and others who care for children:

1. Love Abundantly:

  • Be constant and as unconditional as possible when giving your love to your child.
  • Be open in expressing it physically, and praise your child when other people are present as well as privately.
  • Be open in giving security, a sense of belonging, and support.

2. Discipline Constructively (set and adhere to standards of behavior):

  • Give clear directions.
  • Provide structure.
  • Set limits.
  • Use a positive approach – more “do’s” than “don’ts.”
  • Punish when you say you will.
  • Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  • Make rewards and punishments swiftly following the deed.
  • Be consistent, clear, private, reasonable, and flexible.
  • Be understanding.
  • Be authoritative – not hesitant, indecisive, or rigid.

3. Spend Time Together:

  • Playing.
  • Talking.
  • Teaching.
  • Encouraging family activities.

4. Tend to Personal and Marital Needs:

  • Self nurture

5. Teach Right from Wrong:

  • Basic values.
  • Manners.
  • Religious codes or ethical practices.

6. Develop Mutual Respect for All Members of Your Family.

7. Communicate:

  • Listen carefully to your child.
  • Train your child to listen to you.
  • Talk in language that your child understands.
  • Identify appropriate expressions of anger and frustration.

8. Offer Guidance:

  • Use non-preaching/direct sentences which identify your own values.
  • Help them resolve their problems.

9. Foster Independence:

  • Balance freedom with control.
  • Help children to make decisions.
  • Support independence.

10. Be Realistic:

  • In setting your expectations.
  • By recognizing cut side influences (peers, teachers, TV, etc.)

*Excerpted from Plain Talk About Raising Children, U.S. Department of Health, Education and Welfare!


Ike Ozuome
© 2013-2017 . Ike Ozuome Ministries . All Rights Reserved.


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